Individual and relationship counseling
with a specialization in trauma and sexual intimacy.

Services

Individuals
Couples
Sex & Intimacy
Trauma
Kink & BDSM

For Individuals

Trauma-focused therapy for depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress due to trauma from sexual abuse, childhood, past relationships, religion, or societal/cultural pressures.

Sex therapy for low desire, sexual aversion, vaginismus, performance anxiety, out-of-control sexual behaviors (OCSB), difficulty orgasming, and kink exploration.

EMDR | Sex Therapy | Somatic | Parts Work (IFS)

For Intimate Relationships

Support for desire discrepancy, low sexual satisfaction, emotional and sexual intimacy, recovery after an affair or trust injury, exploring consensual non-monogamy, and kink exploration.

Sex Therapy | Emotion-Focused | Gottman Method

  • "Your attentiveness and presence during sessions was particularly admirable. I never had the impression that your mind was elsewhere and it felt as though you were focusing on us for the full session each time."

  • "Apart from being an excellent clinician, Brenda had a kindness and sincere concern for my well-being that made our Therapist-Client partnership a truly positive experience for me. I cannot recommend Brenda enough to anyone that is in need of Therapy and Counseling services. She is truly an amazing Person."

  • "We were both blown away by how great and balanced you are as a couples’ therapist. Just know that we really appreciate you and feel so lucky to have chosen you!"

  • "I absolutely loved working with Brenda. She helped re-define my narrative to build healthier relationships in my personal life and I am forever grateful to her! 10/10 would recommend."

(she/they)

Brenda Gil Lopez, M.A.

LMFT & Sex Therapist

Brenda Gil Lopez, the therapist, is a young latina woman and she is smiling up at the sky in front of a flowering bush and the blue sky with clouds visible between the trees in the background.

I am a first-generation, Mexican-American, queer millennial woman who values knowledge, love, beauty, hope, and spirituality. My passions include tattoos, heavy metal, and traveling to culturally rich tropical places.

My journey to becoming a sex therapist stems from personal experiences with childhood sexual trauma, hypersexuality, sexual infidelity, and kink.

I aim to challenge heteronormative and patriarchal structures that limit sexual expression and create shame, supporting everyone in accessing their pleasure authentically.

My approach is:

empowered
connected
compassionate

I specialize in working with individuals who have experienced sexual trauma, feel sexual shame, seek greater pleasure, or wish to explore kinks, fetishes, and BDSM.

My approach respects the body's wisdom and its ability to heal, promoting nervous system regulation, compassion, validation, empathy, and attunement.

Consent is the cornerstone of my practice, and I encourage clients to build a stronger connection to their desires by listening to their gut feelings.

I provide a space for clients to heal past wounds, integrate abandoned parts, and expand their authenticity in ways that bring them the most pleasure.

Welcome to your Oasis

Together, we embark on a journey of self-discovery and emotional healing to meet experiences with acceptance and transformation. As your guide, I offer practices to help you to feel grounded and better listen to and connect your body, mind, emotions and spirit where healing can take place.

Location

In-person sessions available. 
Mondays only.

600 N. 36th Street
Suite 302
Downtown Fremont
Seattle, WA 98103

Telehealth/Virtual Sessions available Tuesday through Friday.

 

Sex & Trauma

Sexuality is a meaningful aspect of our personality and health. However, unwanted and difficult experiences can create barriers to confidence and fulfillment in our sexual expression.

With your consent, we can explore past experiences, release trauma, and engage in body-based and mindfulness practices to cultivate your sensual, sexual, and erotic landscape. We can move through experiences of shame, anxiety, avoidance, pain, or confusion. I will offer you education and normalize your experiences to lend permission for you to engage with your sexuality in alignment with your values.

Through exploration and awareness, you will cultivate a deeper understanding of yourself and your desires. By gently exploring fears, needs, or shame, you will find the power to express your desires and embrace your sexual expression.

Individual Therapy

In today's fast-paced world, we often experience overwhelm, burnout, and self-doubt. Societal pressures and lack of support can lead us to adopt beliefs of unworthiness or inadequacy as a result.

As a compassionate guide, I provide choices and unwavering support to help you ground, release accumulated trauma, and rewrite stories that no longer serve you.

Through exploration and increased awareness, you will unravel the origins of beliefs and coping mechanisms. You will cultivate a somatic awareness of emotions and learn to compassionately witness them without becoming overwhelmed. By slowly discharging accumulated stress and trauma, you can make new choices aligned with your true self.

The result is profound and lasting transformation characterized by increased empowerment, compassion, and connection. You will navigate life's challenges with a deeper sense of self-compassion, enhanced relationships and navigate systems with greater support.

Couple Therapy

Do you and your partner crave a deeper connection, better communication, and a more fulfilling relationship?

Many couples face challenges in their emotional and sexual connection. Fortunately, sex therapy for relationships can help you better understand why the issue is happening, build better communication skills, and practice mindfulness-based tools to create a more fulfilling love life.

We can work together if you struggle to talk about sex, experience differences in sexual interest, are dissatisfied with the frequency and quality of sex, or would like to increase connection and novelty in your sexual experiences.

Let's explore solutions that work for you and your partner. Together, we can navigate challenges and reignite the spark in your relationship.

Care for all people.

Uplifting communities of color, LGBTQIA+, immigrants, & sex workers.

I invite you to take the next step.

 FAQs

  • Sex therapy addresses sexual health concerns through discussing sexual feelings, behaviors, and attitudes in a confidential and respectful setting. Common topics include erectile dysfunction, low desire, sexual trauma or shame, and low satisfaction with sexual experiences.

    Within relationship therapy, I help you explore your sexual concerns, understand underlying issues, and develop strategies to increase communication and satisfaction.

    Through open dialogue, education, and exercises, sex therapy aims to enhance sexual satisfaction, intimacy, and overall well-being.

  • Eye-Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a psychotherapeutic approach to reduce distress from traumatic memories and other adverse life experiences and reach a more adaptive state of being. EMDR improves information processing and creation of more adaptive associations which presents as reduced emotional distress and more cognitive insights about past events. Successful treatment includes a reduction in distress, improved mood, reformulated negative beliefs, and reduced physiological arousal to related stressors.

  • I am an out-of-network provider. I do not bill insurance for services, but can provide you with a superbill if you have out-of-network benefits. Please contact your insurance company directly to inquire about your benefits.

    Payment is collected the morning of your appointment and charged to the credit card on file.

  • 50 minute sessions are $175.

    90 minute session are $270.

    Sliding Scale $60 - 150 based on annual income. Limited space available.

I acknowledge that the land on which we gather is the traditional territory of the Coast Salish peoples, including the Duwamish (Dkhw'Duw'Absh) Tribe, Suquamish Tribe, Tulalip Tribes, and Muckleshoot Indian Tribe. This region has long been a place of learning, gathering, and spiritual significance for its original inhabitants. I honor the elders past and present and recognize the ongoing connection of Native peoples to this land.